"Yes, it's clearly going to be an on-going project," she says. "As long as he listens."

Because if he doesn't, she's done. She likes him, and she understands that one person's needs can't come first all the time. She's not incapable of compromise. But she won't bash her head unendingly against the same wall, and she won't tolerate having her privacy treated like a disposable inconvenience.